You may have divorce on the mind, but you're not sure if it's the right time or not. After all, this isn't something you can take back once you say it. You want to be sure before you talk to your spouse.
One reason that couples get divorced is that their expectations for marriage do not line up with the reality of marriage. They feel let down and discouraged. There may not be one big event where their spouse does something wrong, but they know that the marriage is not what they envisioned and not what they wanted.
Those who want the lowest odds of divorce may find themselves wondering when they should get married. Maybe you've heard that people wait longer than ever to tie the knot these days. Does that have anything to do with the divorce rates?
Divorce is complicated enough on its own. Do not let some of the common divorce myths make it even more complex due to mistakes and misunderstandings. To help, let's break down some myths that you want to avoid.
After Christmas and New Year's Day, the odds of divorce go up. This is divorce season, and many couples opt to end their marriages as the new year begins.
One of the hardest things for children after their parents get divorced is that they typically have to move back and forth between two houses. Say you and your ex share custody, each taking the children every other week. That's a lot of movement for the children, especially if they're also moving out of the only family home they have ever known and into two new homes at once.
Courts do not terminate parental rights lightly. They understand how very important these relationships are. If at all possible, they want to keep children with their parents.
Before you got married, did you talk to your spouse about whether you wanted kids? If you're not married yet, are you planning on having that conversation before you tie the knot?
Divorce is already complicated. Don't let it get even more complicated by accepting some of the common myths people tend to spread. These individuals often don't mean to do it; they just don't realize that what they're saying isn't true.
Your marriage is over. Your spouse asked for a divorce and ended the relationship. However, you had kids together, so that relationship will never really end. It just changes. Now you're not romantically involved, but you're still co-parents.