You may have divorce on the mind, but you’re not sure if it’s the right time or not. After all, this isn’t something you can take back once you say it. You want to be sure before you talk to your spouse.
To help you decide where you stand, try asking the following questions:
- Have you communicated clearly? Does your spouse know how you feel about the relationship and what concerns you have?
- If you could choose how you’d change the relationship, what would you pick? Is it something that your spouse would never consider?
- Are you unhappy because you both have different expectations for the marriage?
- Do you love your spouse but feel like you have to end the marriage for other reasons? Or have you fallen out of love with him or her?
- How would you feel if you were alone and unmarried? Does the idea make you excited or nervous?
- It is natural to have some fears about divorce, even when you feel like it’s the right thing to do, so what worries you the most?
- If you have children, what can you do during the divorce to make it go easily for them?
- Does your spouse also want a divorce? Even if you have never talked about it openly, can you tell that you are on the same page? Or do they seem very happy with the way that the marriage is now?
These questions can help you sort out how you feel and whether or not you should bring it up. If you do decide to get divorced, you need to know what legal options you have.