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One option to give the children a consistent home after divorce

One of the hardest things for children after their parents get divorced is that they typically have to move back and forth between two houses. Say you and your ex share custody, each taking the children every other week. That's a lot of movement for the children, especially if they're also moving out of the only family home they have ever known and into two new homes at once.

It also means that they have to coordinate a lot. What if they don't have their favorite toys at both houses? What if they forget something important at your ex's house? You know how big of an issue this can be for a young child. It's very stressful for them.

Make sure you understand the conditions of your probation

If you get let out on probation, that does not simply mean you're free to go. Probation comes with very strict regulations. Even a minor violation can lead to an arrest. You may not think it's a big deal, but the authorities do not agree.

As such, it's critical that you understand the conditions they give you. These vary from case to case, but some examples of common conditions include:

  • You have to go to any and all court appointments. You need to be on time, every time.
  • You have to meet up with a probation officer. Again, they'll give you a time, and you must be there on time. These meetings usually occur on a set schedule, and you need to go to every one.
  • You may need to stay away from certain people. If you have contact with them, that's a violation. Be wary of things like social media contact, which can also be a violation.
  • You may not be allowed to have firearms or have access to them.
  • You may have to take drug tests or even tests to see if you have been drinking alcohol.
  • Above all else, you cannot get arrested again. Even minor laws must be followed. One example is jaywalking. Some people do it so much that they don't even think of it as illegal, but it is. A minor arrest is still an arrest. Follow the law to the letter.

Could your holiday plans be ruined by a DUI?

For some people, the winter holidays are the best time of the year. They love baking holiday cookies, decorating their homes, burning the Yule log and singing carols around a flickering fire. It truly can be a magical time of the year.

But there is a darker side to the holidays that many ignore. It's a time when more people drink and drive. That, in turn, is combatted by increased patrols by law enforcement to reduce the number of deadly accidents on Minnesota roads. It is possible that you could be ensnared in that widened net if you drive after imbibing this holiday season.

Why can parental rights get terminated?

Courts do not terminate parental rights lightly. They understand how very important these relationships are. If at all possible, they want to keep children with their parents.

That said, there are reasons why they can terminate a parent's right to have custody of their own children. Some examples include:

  • A history of abuse
  • A history of mental illness
  • Neglect of the child
  • A criminal record or offense -- generally a felony conviction
  • Serious issues with drug or alcohol use
  • Influencing a child so that they break the law
  • Failing to take proper care of the child
  • Child abandonment
  • Family abandonment
  • Serious risks within the home or when living with the parent
  • Childhood drug addiction at birth

How does your business fit into your family's future?

You are a business owner. As you sit down to do your estate planning, it is clear that your largest and most important asset is that business. What you have to decide is how it fits into your family's future and how you need to address it within your plan.

For instance, maybe you want it to be your family's income for years after you're gone. That's the security that you offer them. It's not so much about giving them money when you pass away, as most people do. You are passing them an asset that will make them money perpetually, which could be far more valuable.

Witnesses may remember things inaccurately

If you get accused of a crime that you did not commit, you may feel shocked and surprised. It's hard to imagine any other reaction. However, if a witness comes forward and says that they saw you carry out the crime, that may take your shock to another level.

How could this happen? This person doesn't know you. You've never met. You can't imagine that they're doing this to you on purpose, so why do they think you committed the crime?

Divorce rates double when couples disagree on kids

Before you got married, did you talk to your spouse about whether you wanted kids? If you're not married yet, are you planning on having that conversation before you tie the knot?

On one hand, it seems obvious that it's a conversation people should have. Getting married, for many, is the first step toward starting a family. They need to know that they have the same plans.

A DUI will affect your future: Here's why

You wanted to go out and have a good time with your friends, but you all had a little too much to drink. You knew you should take a cab or catch a ride with a sober friend, but you got behind the wheel anyway.

Now, you're facing significant charges after causing a crash while intoxicated. Everyone will be fine, so you're now focused on how the DUI will affect your future.

Myths about divorce in America

Divorce is already complicated. Don't let it get even more complicated by accepting some of the common myths people tend to spread. These individuals often don't mean to do it; they just don't realize that what they're saying isn't true.

To help you, here are a few myths to watch out for:

  1. You're less likely to split up if you move in together before marriage. Reality: For reasons that experts can't quite pin down, this actually leads to higher divorce rates.
  2. Your second marriage is more likely to last because you don't repeat mistakes. Reality: Second marriages end at a higher rate than first marriages.
  3. Having a child can save a marriage. Reality: Having a child will not prevent divorce. Children actually add a fair amount of stress to a couple's life, and they make that eventual divorce more complicated.
  4. Women and men have the same reduction in standard of living after divorce. Reality: A man's standard of living actually goes up by about 10%, while a woman's standard of living drops by 27%.
  5. Adults who had divorced parents when they were kids are less likely to get divorced themselves. Reality: The truth is that adults who come from homes with divorced parents have higher divorce rates than those who do not.
  6. Any unhappiness means divorce is coming. Reality: Marriages have ups and downs. Sometimes, couples work through periods of unhappiness. Other times, they see that divorce is the only possible end result. Every case is unique.

Estate planning myths: It's better to wait

You have probably heard that many people put off estate planning and assume that they can wait and do it later. This is often an issue with relatively young people who assume they have decades before their family will need the plan.

What you may not know is that some people take things a step further. They actually think that they can do a better job with their estate planning if they wait. They put it off intentionally.


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