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Witnesses may remember things inaccurately

If you get accused of a crime that you did not commit, you may feel shocked and surprised. It's hard to imagine any other reaction. However, if a witness comes forward and says that they saw you carry out the crime, that may take your shock to another level.

How could this happen? This person doesn't know you. You've never met. You can't imagine that they're doing this to you on purpose, so why do they think you committed the crime?

Divorce rates double when couples disagree on kids

Before you got married, did you talk to your spouse about whether you wanted kids? If you're not married yet, are you planning on having that conversation before you tie the knot?

On one hand, it seems obvious that it's a conversation people should have. Getting married, for many, is the first step toward starting a family. They need to know that they have the same plans.

A DUI will affect your future: Here's why

You wanted to go out and have a good time with your friends, but you all had a little too much to drink. You knew you should take a cab or catch a ride with a sober friend, but you got behind the wheel anyway.

Now, you're facing significant charges after causing a crash while intoxicated. Everyone will be fine, so you're now focused on how the DUI will affect your future.

Myths about divorce in America

Divorce is already complicated. Don't let it get even more complicated by accepting some of the common myths people tend to spread. These individuals often don't mean to do it; they just don't realize that what they're saying isn't true.

To help you, here are a few myths to watch out for:

  1. You're less likely to split up if you move in together before marriage. Reality: For reasons that experts can't quite pin down, this actually leads to higher divorce rates.
  2. Your second marriage is more likely to last because you don't repeat mistakes. Reality: Second marriages end at a higher rate than first marriages.
  3. Having a child can save a marriage. Reality: Having a child will not prevent divorce. Children actually add a fair amount of stress to a couple's life, and they make that eventual divorce more complicated.
  4. Women and men have the same reduction in standard of living after divorce. Reality: A man's standard of living actually goes up by about 10%, while a woman's standard of living drops by 27%.
  5. Adults who had divorced parents when they were kids are less likely to get divorced themselves. Reality: The truth is that adults who come from homes with divorced parents have higher divorce rates than those who do not.
  6. Any unhappiness means divorce is coming. Reality: Marriages have ups and downs. Sometimes, couples work through periods of unhappiness. Other times, they see that divorce is the only possible end result. Every case is unique.

Estate planning myths: It's better to wait

You have probably heard that many people put off estate planning and assume that they can wait and do it later. This is often an issue with relatively young people who assume they have decades before their family will need the plan.

What you may not know is that some people take things a step further. They actually think that they can do a better job with their estate planning if they wait. They put it off intentionally.

5 reasons why you need an estate plan

Planning for the end of your life can be difficult but putting an estate plan in place can be crucial to caring for your family’s needs for years to come. Planning includes simple documents, such as a will to more complex strategies like trusts.

Minnesota state laws are specific about what can or can’t be placed in a will or trust as well as the rules for choosing a personal representative, health care surrogate or attorney in fact.

Tips for the new co-parent

Your marriage is over. Your spouse asked for a divorce and ended the relationship. However, you had kids together, so that relationship will never really end. It just changes. Now you're not romantically involved, but you're still co-parents.

How can you adjust to this change? What do you need to do to make things go well for you and the kids? Here are a few tips to keep in mind:

  • Enjoy the free moments you have when your kids are with your ex. Many parents find this hard, and that's understandable, but you'll live a low-stress life if you just accept it and use that free time to your benefit.
  • Understand that you both need to be flexible. The parenting plan guides you, but life is unpredictable. Be ready to bend when needed and ask your ex to do the same.
  • Always put the kids first. There is no more important rule. Every decision you make has to put them ahead of yourself.
  • Encourage that relationship with your ex. Don't tell the children not to text, call, write or talk online. Let them do it. Understand that, no matter how you feel, it's best for them if they have a strong relationship with both of you.
  • Be respectful of your ex, of their rights, and of their time with the kids. Make the drop-offs on time. Pick the kids up on schedule. Don't try to infringe on their time or steal little bits of it for yourself.

For children, low-conflict divorce is the hardest

A lot of time and research has gone into looking at how divorce really impacts children. Researchers warn against assuming it is always a negative event, for instance, noting that children who are trapped in high-conflict homes may actually see it as a positive. They did not have the life they wanted or needed when the parents were together and not getting along, so things improved after the divorce -- even though that meant splitting time with Mom and Dad.

That said, studies have found that the most difficult divorces for children are the ones where the parents have a low-conflict marriage. While that low-conflict marriage is better for the kids while it lasts -- naturally, not having conflict in the home is a positive -- it is more unsettling for them when it ends because it's harder for them to understand why it happened.

Most people want to buy a home by 28

Buying a home is on the to-do list for most people, right along with getting a college degree, getting married, starting a career and having kids. It's one of the standard boxes that many individuals want to check off in their lives. Buying your first home is a major event.

When do most first-time homebuyers want to make their purchase? It can be a little intimidating. Studies have found that most people think they should buy a first home by age 28 -- or, at least, that's what they want to do.

Did you remember to update your estate plan after your divorce?

Life can be hectic during and immediately after your divorce. Your routines may change and your to-do list may grow. It can be difficult to juggle the paperwork, payments and decisions that come with divorce, as well as your regular day-to-day activities like feeding the dog and taking your kids to school.

With everything going on, it is completely understandable that a few things may get lost in the shuffle. However, there is no way to know what the future may hold, so it may be wise to update your estate plan sooner rather than later.

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