Now that you and your former spouse have gotten divorced, you’re having to learn how to be co-parents to your children. They’re going to live in two different homes and it’s true that life isn’t going to be the same. But the good news is that both of you are going to stay involved, and that’s what’s best for the children.
You’re worried that the rules you put in place for the kids are more strict than the rules that your ex is going to use. Is there any way that you can make them follow the same rules that you do or have the same regulations in the house? This could apply to things like screen time, curfews and things of this nature.
Consistency is important, but not mandated
First and foremost, childhood development experts do know that consistency can really help kids. It helps them feel more stable. They know what to expect and what’s expected of them. It could also reduce conflicts between them and the parents. If both of you have the same rules, then odds are that co-parenting is going to go more smoothly than it would otherwise.
That being said, you’re not legally required to have the same rules just because you are co-parents. If your ex institutes a rule that you disagree with, you absolutely do not have to follow it in your own home. You cannot stop your ex from having that rule in place unless it puts the children in danger for some reason, but you don’t have to use perfectly consistent rules in each house.
As a co-parent, take the time to carefully consider all of the rights and options that you have.
