There’s no question that co-parenting is challenging. Disagreements about all types of issues can arise, including bedtimes, schedules, discipline and more. In some situations, kids may even try to play their parents against one another, which causes even more conflict.
While there’s no secret formula to get co-parenting right, some tips may help you manage and avoid disagreements and co-exist while ensuring your child is cared for.
Avoid talking badly about the other parent
It’s never smart to talk bad about your child’s other parent in front of them. In some cases, if this continues, it can cause low self-esteem and a sense of unworthiness for the child. They may also begin to wonder if they can trust you. If you have a problem with the child’s other parent, discuss it with them and avoid putting your children in the middle.
Learn to respect each other’s house rules
If kids have a bedtime of 8 PM at dad’s house and 10 PM at mom’s house, it may not be the perfect situation. However, it is better for children to have different bedtimes than to see and hear their parents constantly fighting about bedtime. Also, it teaches them flexibility and that rules may differ in other places.
Be flexible about schedule changes
Some parents struggle with sudden requests to change their child’s schedule. The best solution for this is to consider what’s in the children’s best interest. Sometimes, this may not be what the children want to do, but what is best for them.
Dealing with co-parenting conflict
There are bound to be disagreements when you co-parent your children. However, keeping your child’s best interests in mind will help you overcome them. It’s also possible to explore legal options for modifying a co-parenting plan when necessary.
